밤새 안녕을 물어야 했던 한 주였겠습니다. 눈이 늘 귀한 지역이기에 눈은 선망의 대상이었지 미움의 대상은 아니었는데. 지난주일 밤부터 내리기 시작한 눈이 수요일까지 4일 동안 쏟아 부어졌고, 목요일도 간간히 그리고 금요일도 비와 섞여 내리고 있다 들었습니다. 눈의 양이야 이보다 더 많이 내렸던 적이 있다하지만, 이렇게 장시간 눈이 내렸던 적은 없었습니다. 아마도 우리 평생에 이런 경험을 다시 할지 모르겠습니다. 이처럼 가장 열악한 시간에 “신앙교육, 가정에서부터 (신가) 세미나”가 3일 동안 열렸습니다. 교통은 마비가 되었고, 길을 걸어오는 것조차 부담 스러웠던 날이었지만 그래도 “너희 자녀를 위해 울라”는 주님의 말씀대로 신앙교육, 가정에서부터 다시 시작하고 싶은 분들이 자리를 메우며 강의에 몰입했다 들었습니다. 지나가는 행사(Event)가 아니라 운동 (Movement)이 되기를 기도합니다.
하지만, 사람은 망각의 존재입니다. 망각의 기능은 심리적으로 긍정적일 때도 있지만 교육적으로 부정적일 때도 있습니다. 그래서 여러분들을 위해 세 가지 리마인더를 나누어 드렸습니다. 문설주 리마인더, 휴대폰 스티커 리마인더, 성경 책갈피 리마인더입니다. 이제 울산교회 성도들의 성경책 안에는 신가책갈피가, 휴대폰 위에는 신가스티커가, 가정 문설주나 거울 등에는 신가문설주 리마인더가 붙어 있을 것입니다.
특별히 나누어드린 휴대폰 금장스티커는 단순히 여러분의 핸드폰을 좀더 아름답게 꾸미기 위함은 아닙니다. 두 가지 목적이 있습니다. 첫째 목적은, 그 스티커를 볼 때마다 우리 교회는 “신앙교육, 가정에서부터” 운동을 한다는 것을 계속해서 상기하시라는 것입니다. 둘째 목적은, 그것을 볼 때 잠시만 멈추라(Pause)는 것입니다. 단순히 행동을 멈추라는 것이 아니라 그것을 보는 아주 짧은 시간에 여러분의 자녀를 위해 10초 정도만이라도 기도하자는 것입니다. 예를 들면 이렇게 기도하시는 겁니다. “하나님 00이가 오늘 무거운 맘으로 학교 갔어요. 그 마음 만져주세요. / 하나님 00이가 오늘 두통이 있다네요. 머리를 시원케 해 주세요. / 하나님 00이가 교회 가는 것을 억지로해요. 기쁨으로 가게 도와주세요.”
전화를 받을 때는 멈추어서 기도할 수 없을 겁니다. 그러나 전화를 하기 전에 이 리마인더를 보면서 자녀를 위해 짧은 기도를 할 수 있을 겁니다. 하지만 매번 전화를 할 때마다 짧은 기도를 드리기는 어렵습니다. 그렇다면 조금씩 시작해보면 어떨까요? 예를 들어서 오전에 처음 전화를 할 때나, 오후에 처음으로 전화를 할 때 식으로 말입니다. 구역장 공부모임, 구역모임, 제자반 모임, 성경대학 모임, 교사회 모임, 각종 모임에서 이것에 관해서 서로 확인하며 격려할 수 있을 것입니다.
하나의 행동이 습관으로 굳어지게 되는데 약 600시간이 걸린다고 들었습니다. 물론 교육학자에 따라 조금씩의 차이가 있기는 하지만 그만큼 많은 수고와 주의를 기울이지 않는다면 하나의 좋은 습관이 형성되지 않는다는 것입니다. 만물보다 심히 부패한 것이 마음이기에 그 마음을 바로하여 습관을 형성한다는 것 그리 쉬운 일 아닙니다. 우리 자녀 속에 깊이 파고드는 세속의 탁류가 너무 거세고 자녀들의 영혼은 파리해져 가고 있습니다. 정말 자녀를 위해 울어야 할 때입니다. 아니, 이제는 울고 만 있을 것이 아니라 손을 써야 할 때인 것 같습니다. 리마인더, 목적에 맞게 잘 쓰였으면 합니다.
It must have been a week of checking in on each other's safety through the night. In a region where snow is always rare, snowfall was once an object of longing rather than resentment. Yet from last Sunday night until Wednesday, snow poured down relentlessly for four full days, and I heard that on Thursday it fell intermittently, followed by rain mixed with snow on Friday. Although there may have been times in the past when more total snow fell, never before had it fallen over such an extended duration. We may never experience anything like this again in our lifetime. Right during this most challenging time, the three-day seminar, "Faith Education, Starting from the Family" (abbreviated as Sin-Ga), took place. Traffic was paralyzed, and even walking along the streets was a daunting task. Yet, keeping close to the Lord's words, "Weep for your children," those who longed to restart faith education from the home filled the seats and immersed themselves in the lectures. I pray that this will not remain merely a passing event, but become an enduring movement.
However, human beings are creatures prone to forgetfulness. While the capacity to forget can sometimes be psychologically beneficial, educationally it can often be a hindrance. For that reason, we distributed three kinds of reminders to everyone: a doorpost reminder, a mobile phone sticker reminder, and a Bible bookmark reminder. Now, inside the Bibles of the congregants of Ulsan Church, you will find the Sin-Ga bookmark; on their mobile phones, the Sin-Ga sticker; and on their home doorposts or mirrors, the Sin-Ga doorpost reminder.
In particular, the gold-embossed mobile phone sticker was not given merely to make your phone look a bit more beautiful. It serves two distinct purposes. The first purpose is that whenever you see the sticker, you are continually reminded that our church is pursuing the "Faith Education, Starting from the Family" movement. The second purpose is that whenever you see it, you pause. This does not mean merely halting your actions, but taking just ten seconds during that brief glance to pray for your children. For example, you might pray like this: "Lord, so-and-so went to school today with a heavy heart. Please comfort and touch their heart. / Lord, so-and-so has a headache today. Please grant them relief and clarity of mind. / Lord, so-and-so is reluctant to go to church. Please help them go with joy."
When you receive an incoming call, you may not be able to pause and pray. But before making an outgoing call, looking at this reminder gives you the chance to offer a brief prayer for your child. Of course, it is difficult to offer a short prayer every single time you make a call. If so, why not start small? For instance, pray before the first call you make in the morning, or before the first call you make in the afternoon. In cell group leaders' study meetings, cell group gatherings, discipleship classes, Bible college classes, Sunday school teachers' meetings, and all kinds of gatherings, we can check in with one another and offer mutual encouragement in this practice.
I have heard that it takes about 600 hours for a single action to solidify into a habit. Although educational theorists may differ slightly on the exact figure, it means that a good habit simply cannot take shape without dedicated effort and continuous attentiveness. Because the human heart is deceitful above all things, righting that heart to form a godly habit is no easy task. The muddy currents of the world are flooding deeply into our children's lives, and their souls are growing increasingly pallid. Truly, it is time to weep for our children. No, rather than merely weeping, it is time to take decisive action. I pray that these reminders will be used faithfully according to their intended purpose.
Dit moes 'n week gewees het waarin ons voortdurend deur die nag moes verneem na mekaar se welstand. In 'n streek waar sneeu altyd skaars is, was sneeu nog altyd iets van verlange en bewondering, nie van afkeer nie. Tog het die sneeu van verlede Sondagaand tot Woensdag vier dae aaneen aanhoudend neergestort, en ek het verneem dat dit Donderdag met tussenposes geval het en Vrydag gemeng met reën neergekom het. Alhoewel daar in die verlede dalk al meer sneeu op een slag geval het, was daar nog nooit 'n tydperk waarin dit so lank aaneen gesneeu het nie. Moontlik sal ons so 'n ervaring nooit weer in ons leeftyd meemaak nie. Juis in hierdie uiters moeilike omstandighede is die driedaagse seminaar, "Geloofsopvoeding, vanaf die Gesin" (Sin-Ga), aangebied. Die verkeer was lamgelê, en selfs om te voet te kom, was 'n groot opoffering. Tog, gehoorsaam aan die Here se woorde: "Ween oor julle kinders," het diegene wat geloofsopvoeding weer van die huis af wou begin, die saal gevul en hulle in die lesings verdiep. Ek bid dat dit nie 'n verbygaande gebeurtenis (Event) sal bly nie, maar 'n lewende beweging (Movement) sal word.
Mense is egter wesens wat geneig is om te vergeet. Alhoewel die vermoë om te vergeet sielkundig soms positief kan wees, is dit opvoedkundig dikwels negatief. Daarom het ons drie soorte herinnerings aan almal uitgedeel: 'n deurpos-herinnering, 'n selfoonplakker-herinnering, en 'n Bybelleeswyser-herinnering. Nou sal daar in die Bybels van die lidmate van Ulsan Gemeente 'n Sin-Ga-leeswyser wees, op hul selfone 'n Sin-Ga-plakker, en op hul deurposte of spieëls by die huis 'n Sin-Ga-deurposherinnering.
Die goue selfoonplakker wat spesiaal uitgedeel is, is nie bloot bedoel om jou foon 'n bietjie mooier te versier nie. Dit dien twee duidelike doelwitte. Die eerste doel is dat elke keer wanneer jy die plakker sien, jy voortdurend daaraan herinner sal word dat ons gemeente besig is met die "Geloofsopvoeding, vanaf die Gesin"-beweging. Die tweede doel is dat wanneer jy dit sien, jy 'n oomblik sal stilhou (Pause). Dit beteken nie bloot om jou handelinge te staak nie, maar om in daardie baie kort oomblik net tien sekondes af te staan om vir jou kinders te bid. Jy kan byvoorbeeld soos volg bid: "Here, so-en-so het vandag met 'n swaar gemoed skool toe gegaan. Raak asseblief daardie hartjie aan. / Here, so-en-so het vandag hoofpyn. Bring asseblief verligting en helderheid. / Here, so-en-so gaan teësinnig kerk toe. Help hom/haar om met vreugde te gaan."
Wanneer jy 'n oproep ontvang, sal jy dalk nie kan stilhou en bid nie. Maar voordat jy 'n oproep maak, kan jy na hierdie herinnering kyk en 'n kort gebed vir jou kind doen. Natuurlik is dit moeilik om voor elke enkele oproep 'n kort gebed te doen. Waarom begin ons dan nie stelselmatig nie? Byvoorbeeld, voor die heel eerste oproep wat jy soggens maak, of voor die eerste oproep in die middae. Tydens wyksleierbyeenkomste, wyksbyeenkomste, dissipelskapgroepe, Bybelkollege-klasse, sondagskoolonderwysersvergaderings en allerlei ander byeenkomste kan ons mekaar hieroor pols en bemoedig.
Ek het verneem dat dit sowat 600 uur neem vir 'n handeling om 'n vaste gewoonte te word. Alhoewel opvoedkundiges effens hieroor van mening verskil, beteken dit dat sonder deurlopende moeite en aandag, 'n goeie gewoonte eenvoudig nie gevorm kan word nie. Aangesien die menslike hart bo alles bedrieglik is, is dit geen maklike taak om daardie hart reg te stel en goeie gewoontes aan te kweek nie. Die modderige stroom van die wêreld dring diep deur in ons kinders se lewens, en hulle siele word al hoe meer uitgeteer. Dit is werklik tyd om oor ons kinders te ween. Nee, dit voel asof dit nie meer net tyd is om te ween nie, maar om daadwerklik handelend op te tree. Mag hierdie herinnerings getrou volgens hul doel gebruik word.